Thursday, April 17, 2014

All Those Shades of Gray

     Let me assure you that this post has nothing to do with the book, 50 Shades of Grey.
Nor does it have anything to do with gray matter- the physical component that makes up part of our brains.  That's the reason for my photo of the fish.

     I've been working on this post for some time.  There's no earth shattering statement; more of an observation.  When I started writing this post, I had just read a post at PIWTPITT, on Dylan Farrow.  Then I read Janice Benson's post on Huffington Post, "I'm a Single Working Mom--Stop Calling Me a Taker."  All this got me thinking about the "gray matter."
     I've never read, 50 Shades of Grey, but maybe that was what the author was sort of referring to.  Emphasis on the "sort of".
     Life is made up of a lot of gray matter.  Not black, not white; rarely is there a definite this or that.  Relationships end because they don't work.  Because of the gray, life is not fair.  Seldom is everything as bad as it seems.  If something seems too good to be true, it usually is.  Cliches exist for a reason: reoccurring gray.
     There have been and there are some talented artists who are disturbed.  By no means is it a prerequisite.  The old cliche "good people do bad things" comes to mind; but that does not under any circumstance, excuse, rationalize, or make things okay.  There have been people throughout history, who have been considered either the epitome of good or evil.  Upon closer inspection, you find that the good ones had their faults, and the evil, had musical or artistic talents, and usually had loved ones. I have worked with chefs, that couldn't control their temper.  I just roll my eyes and walk away.  It's only food; not saving lives.  I think it's important never to confuse temper for passion and to recognize the difference.  Passion involves, love, devotion and commitment.  Temper is just a hot headed way to get attention.  Need an outlet?  Learn to play the drums.
     
     Just for all we know, most scenarios are not as absolute as to deliver one to Heaven or Hell.  Much as we wish that was true in some cases. 

    So I guess when all's said, just be cautious of putting anyone on a pedestal or in a pit.  Consider what's the motivation for the action.  

Nobody is 100% anything.

Like death, taxes and change; it's something you can count on.