Read This Before Your Next Restaurant Visit!

   

    With holidays coming and going, I'm reposting, a post I wrote in 2013, for the NAT'L WAITERS & WAITRESSES DAY!
     

     This new post, features a few more points, as well as more cartoons from my husband, Davis Jaye.  

      If you would like to contact him for a freelance job, click on his name above, and you will be whisked away to his online portfolio.  It's extensive!  

       If you go to his online portfolio, you'll see the great illustrations of folks~of all ages; great portraits of homes; and so much more.  He can do an amazing range!

 

     Davis , is a great multitalented artist and a great listener, to folks that have hired him for freelance art and for acting!  He's on IMDB; if you'd like to see his acting history, click on either Davis or IMDB😊

    

     Also, check out his cartoon website, The Squirrel's Nest.😁😂😉 It is HILARIOUS!!!  He also has a DONATE tab on his cartoon website;  The Squirrel's Nest.  Since he's drawn 1000 cartoons on that sight, he truly earns, and should receive compensation.  Just like the DONATE tab, I have on the upper, right side, above the Sadie Project! 

     He's obviously a multitalented artist!

      As some know, we met when I was managing a great, fun, restaurant, and he was one who was hired in May of 1997.  Then 6 months later, he asked me out, I stated I'd signed a non fraternization clause; so we just did a lot of holiday shopping, movie watching, and so much as friends!  

     Long story short; our first kiss was my birthday (day after Christmas) and we still worked together; kept down low; then he transferred to another of the company's great restaurants!  Then we came out!  He moved to Los Angeles in 2000; proposed to me in November 2001; then I moved to Los Angeles in 2002, and we married in West Virginia that year!  Will mention more later on...

   

      Now, onto the restaurant biz...

For Labor Day: Tallywackers UPDATE! Originally Written in '15, Now Closed ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Visit Tallywackers' Site

     Well, it's Friday, and usually I like to end the week on a lighter note.  Such a funny post to repost😉 My DONATE tab is there->

     A while back I wrote a bit about, Tallywackers, a soon to be opening attempt at an all-male Hooter's, in Dallas, TX.

Oh Boy!<-LINK

Marriage: Take 2...

     Everything is fine and dandy here; the phrase "Take 2" just means a follow up to my original, "My Take On Marriage",... with some more thoughts on the ever evolving state of marriage.  I have made updates, since the first I wrote in 2013; posted in August of  2013; and this one, I wrote in 2014, and posted on November 22, 2o14.

     

     Then on June 26, 2015. Marriage Equality finally passed!  I was at a great Community Festival in Columbus, Ohio, on that weekend with one of my best friend/pseudo sisters; and we met up with friends she'd worked with at a restaurant, years before.  We all celebrated Marriage Equality!  In such an amazingly fun way! 

     Now ten years later...I'm working on books; starting on a screenplay; but now our kids are nearly... well, just older... as my mom told me, when you get to your mid 20's your hormones will have evened out, and you won't see things so dramatically terrible... 

     And I am working on an uplifting new post...Then last Friday, I went with another best friend/pseudo sister; and went and saw Sir Rod Stewart's One Last Time!!! 

     The concert was phenomenally uplifting and fun!  

     There'll be more about him, and the reason he was justly Knighted, on my post... 

Return to Renaissance... 

     

Now, back to Take 2...

     I started this post a few months ago, but due to many things happening in the world and the ongoing battle for marriage equality, it has taken this long to finish!

 
     My take is made up of what I've seen in current events and what I've been reading; Who Cooked The Last Supper? The Women's History of The World by Rosalind Miles;  Marriage, a History: How Love Conquered Marriage by Stephanie Coontz; and Pride and Prejudice by Jane Austen!

     With the intro of the phrase, "conscious uncoupling";  I can't help but wonder what Ms. Austen would make of it all.  Right now, I am reading Cleopatra: A Life, by Stacy Schiff.  Maybe I'll get an idea on the last pharaoh's take on the whole institution.

     Let me start with Charlotte Lucas's thought from Jane Austen's Pride and Prejudice: "Happiness in marriage is entirely a matter of chance.  If the dispositions of the parties are ever so well known to each other; or ever so similar before-hand, it does not advance their felicity in the least.  They always continue to grow sufficiently unlike afterwards to have their share of vexation; and it is better to know as little as possible of the defects of the person with whom you are to pass your life.'"  She has a point.

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My Take on Marriage

Just a little updates... since I wrote this in August of 2013...💕Gratitude to Jimmy Buffett...

     What do I think of marriage?  It's great.  That is my opinion today.  What I think most days, is it's a lot of work.  My husband will say the same.  Thankfully, it's work we both enjoy.  We had both been around enough to know that going in. It's compromises, concessions, and work to share your life with someone. It's a choice, and a privilege that not everyone gets to enjoy.  I think it takes 2, maybe more, to make it work- only 1 to make it not work.  I won't say fail, because I think if people look back on a marriage that didn't last till "death do us part",  there are still a lot of good and fun memories, and maybe even kids- so, in my opinion that's hardly failing.  

That's a choice as well, that yields its own compromises, concessions and rewards.

     I like my husband as well as love him.  

We have a lot of similarities, and quite a bit 

of differences.  The big one, politics.  For those

that James Carville's and Mary Matalin's marriage befuddles them- I can say that it does cause some debates, but we know we're never gonna change each other, (nor do we wish to) and for the most part get why the other votes the way they do and enjoy the enlightening each of us bring.  We've been together for nearly 16 years, and I can honestly say, he still makes me smile and usually laugh almost every day.  Most the time it's even intentional.

An Important Repost Because: "LOVE IS LOVE!"

Jessica's daughters drew this in honor of this post.  

     Today's post is a repost, of a post I shared 12 years ago.  It's one of just a few guest posts, that I've had here on Sadie's Gathering.  

      Since our loved ones are going to schools; and most start soon.., etc... 

     Many things have changed in the last few years; some for better, some less so. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ 

     What has not changed, is the ever essential need for compassion, understanding and acceptance!

     For as Ms. Herthel states below, "Because willful ignorance leads to hateful ignorance." 

     Sadly, today, even in 2025, we have too many examples as proof. 

     So, again I share, "Ending The Gay Charade" by Jessica Mayer Herthel. 

     It's way past time, we all need to acknowledge, no matter what gender, age, shade of skin, sexuality, religion, etc. 

     WE ARE ALL HUMAN BEINGS!  TOMORROW IS NOBODY'S PROMISE; WE ALL NEED TO AGREE, TO DISAGREE; TO LIVE, LEARN, LIKE, LAUGH, & LOVE!

Please pass this along! 
     

HAVE A FUN OCTOPUS HOLIDAY!

© Susan Jaye 2023

 
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     On August 7th of last year I was looking through emails, and got an email from VIKING GOODS.  

They are a great t-shirt company with unique cute t-shirts!  

     Just as if we were back in the Viking days ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

     Viking Goods~> GREAT OCTOPUS SHIRTS!  (Link to Viking Goods website) Viking Goods has so many t-shirts!

Click here for the latest t-shirts!

    If you like octopi as much as I do... get one of the great Viking Goods t-shirts for the official Octopus Holiday!!!  That fittingly is on the 8th in OCTOBER!!! 

    Just in case you'd like to know all of the holidays...here are some fun sites!  There's also more to see and read about octopi!